Connections and Conversations
I remember some years back, writing in a journal about the comfort and actually joy I feel when witnessing conversations taking place between my husband and our children. I don’t need to be a part of the conversation or even hear what they’re talking about. Just being a bystander is enough because I know how important these moments of connection actually are.
In one of my older posts, I wrote about “mending and cleaning” and helping my son clean his house once in awhile. My daughter recently sent me a post in “theonion” about a mom who spends her beach vacation carrying out the same household duties she does at home, only she’s looking at the ocean and this still brings her joy. I can relate. I don’t mind doing the mundane tasks if I’m able to be in a pleasant environment and hearing and watching relationships develop. Don’t get me wrong, I certainly want to participate and go in the ocean, and others definitely need to pitch in and do their share. But it’s those moments I’m talking about, when friendships are forged and conversations take place, even if your washing the dishes and looking at the ocean, it’s okay.
Earlier this morning my husband Ken, my son Jonathan and my “other” son Kyle went off to a car-swap. It’s kind of fun to see the three of them take off each in their own convertible. They’re doing something together that they enjoy, and I don’t need to be a part of it, and I’m happy with that! It’s nice that they can do this together and not discuss the typical things in life: work, careers, money...things that cause tension 😉.
Observing connections and conversations with people you love can be just as meaningful as being an active participant in those moments. Keep your eyes open, you don’t want to miss when these interactions take place.